Louisa’s mad,
And I am glad,
And I know how to please her!A bottle of wine
To make her fine
And her handsome beau to squeeze her!
So taunted the children on the sidewalk by the home of Louisa Frederici, in the Old Frenchtown community of St. Louis, Missouri, in the spring of 1865. Her suitor, William F. Cody, a young private of the US Army, had come to court her favor.1
The two had been introduced only a few days before by Louisa’s cousin, William McDonald. The particular circumstances of their first meeting is now in the realm of legend, whereby Will McDonald played a practical joke on his cousin when he found she had nodded off while reading a magazine, perched upon a chair. Discovering her chair being pulled out from under her, Louisa managed to whirl about and furiously slap her jokester on the face, only to then realize she had assaulted a stranger rather than her prankster cousin! Despite her cousin’s laughter, he managed to formally introduce Private William Cody to Louisa, only to have him respond:
“I believe—I believe Miss Frederici and I have met before.”
“Where?” I [Louisa] innocently asked.
“In battle,” came the answer, and I flounced out of the room.2
Louisa later recounted her first impression of William Cody, that he was about the most handsome man she had ever seen. She must have been immediately infatuated with him, as she then devised a plan by the three of them to play an additional joke on another of her suitors, Louis Reiber, who had arranged to visit her that very afternoon. She and Cody were to play that they had known one another for a long time, and she began calling him “Will” as a familiar name. When Reiber arrived, he found the three of them acting like old friends, with Will and Louisa seeming quite close. At some point the “joke” went so far as to represent that Louisa was Will Cody’s fiancée. Eventually Reiber departed in exasperation.

Cody returned several times. His pet name for her was Lulu, or sometimes just Lou. She kept a love poem from him, after he had spied her out on a walk, her face covered in veils to avoid sunburn:
The blazing sun of brilliant day
May veil the light of stars above,
But no amount of heavy veils
Can e’er deceive the eyes of love.
William F. Cody, in his own autobiography, later stated that while he was a soldier in 1865 he had met Louisa Frederici while stationed briefly in St. Louis. After his discharge at close of the Civil War later that year, he returned to St. Louis on a mission: “…to capture the heart of Miss Frederici, whom I now adored above any other young lady I had ever seen.” Louisa had been raised in a comfortable economic class, attended a Catholic convent for schooling, and was skilled in sewing. She was fully prepared to be a traditional housewife and mother. That she was at least two years older than William Cody did not seem to bother her.
On March 6, 1866, the two were wed at her father’s home. A mere hour after their wedding, the newlyweds embarked on a steamboat on the Missouri River, headed to Kansas. Cody’s reputation as an abolitionist Kansas jay-hawker in the early years of the Civil War caught up with him almost immediately, leading his new bride to wonder just how dangerous her new husband might actually be. At one riverboat landing there was a scuffle and gunshot, which caused Louisa to faint into her husband’s arms. Yet that did not seem to dampen their ardor, as their daughter Arta was born nine months later in December.4

Lulu very quickly learned that life on the frontier West was not what she had prepared for, and that her new husband did not have the kind of regular employment folks in Old Frenchtown were accustomed to. Eventually, William F. Cody found personal and economic success as Buffalo Bill—scout, hunter, and showman extraordinaire. But Louisa did not shine on the world stage, being much more comfortable in her own home raising her family and managing her household and, eventually, ranches and other properties in both Nebraska and Wyoming.
She did try to adapt to the West, and her husband taught her to shoot and how to ride. Perhaps her greatest effort was when she described her own buffalo hunt in Kansas, just days after Buffalo Bill’s much heralded hunting contest against William Comstock:
I gave the word to Brigham [Cody’s experienced buffalo hunting horse] and while Arta, strapped to my lap, laughed and gurgled and clapped her little hands, we galloped forward. One great, heavy humped buffalo had moved out a few yards from the rest of the stragglers, and Will waved an arm to me to indicate that this was the one I should shoot down. I turned Brigham toward him, and the chase began…. Only a few rods separated us, and I raised my revolver as though to fire. But Will anxiously waved me down.
“Closer!” I could not hear the word, but I could see his lips as he framed it. Even old Brigham seemed to understand that I was about to make a mistake, for he suddenly plunged forward with a new speed, cutting the distance between the speeding bison and me. Soon the distance was cut in two. Now to a third. Again I raised my revolver, and this time Will did not object. There was a puff of smoke, the booming of the heavy gun, and then— Then, with a thrill I never again shall know, I saw the buffalo stumble, stagger a second, and fall headlong….5
Alas, the early charm of their courtship and marriage did not long survive the wear and tear of everyday frontier life in the West, nor of extended separations necessitated by a life of worldwide showmanship. Both Will and Lulu later wrote their biographies, not as simple memoirs, but as carefully constructed public images designed to immortalize what they wished to be their own best qualities. Accepted as such, their stories rank among the early legendary tales of the West.6
Contributed by Nathan E. Bender, Research Assistant, McCracken Research Library, Buffalo Bill Center of the West. Co-published with WyoHistory.org, where this post will appear on February 13, 2026.
Sources:
- Louisa Frederici Cody and Courtney Ryley Cooper, Memories of Buffalo Bill by His Wife (New York: D. Appleton and Company, 1919), 31. See also Louisa Frederici Cody, Courtney Ryley Cooper, and Sherry L. Smith, Memories of Buffalo Bill (Lincoln: University of Nebraska Press, 2025), 18.
- Cody and Cooper, Memories of Buffalo Bill, 3-4.
- Cody and Cooper, Memories of Buffalo Bill, 12.
- William F. Cody and Frank Christianson, The Life of Hon. William F. Cody, Known As Buffalo Bill (Lincoln: University of Nebraska Press, 2011), 161-65, 175; Cody and Cooper, Memories of Buffalo Bill, 40-41.
- Cody and Cooper, Memories of Buffalo Bill, 142-143.
- See, for example, comments by Louis S. Warren, Buffalo Bill’s America: William Cody and the Wild West Show (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2005), 80-81.




















































